Kiedys poznalam w restauracji dziewczyne, wymienilysmy sie numerami telefonow, i postanowilysmy sie spotkac pewnego dnia.
Ten dzien nastapil dzisiaj. Zadzwonila, i zaproponowala, zebysmy pojechaly na zakupy. Ok, ja tam moge na zakupy, czemu nie.
Ona nie ma samochodu, ja mam. Wiec oczywiscie logiczne jest, ze po nia pojade, zeby nie musiala jechac taksowka (chociaz taksowki tutaj sa bardzo, bardzo tanie, pewnie jak autobus w Warszawie).
Tluke sie w jedna strone do jej domu. Musze na nia czekac pod domem okolo 10 minut, zanim ona sie skonczy szykowac. W koncu wychodzi.
Jedziemy z powrotem, do centrum handlowego. W centrum idziemy na kawe.
Niestety, nie ma czasu, zeby pogadac, bo ona albo biega za swoim dzieckiem (ktore doskonale widac, nie trzeba go za reke trzymac), albo robi mu zdjecia.
Idziemy do pierwszego sklepu (ona zdecydowala, ktory to sklep). Pol godziny wybiera sobie pocztowke dla babci na urodziny, zabawke dla swojego dziecka, i papier do zapakowania prezentu. A ja stoje, i czekam. Pol godziny!
Potem mowi: chodz, kupie malemu bulke. I idzie do sklepu spozywczego. Robi sobie zakupy na obiad: warzywka, miesko, owoce… a ja chodze za nia, jak jej osobista sluzaca.
Potem jeszcze poszla do sklepu z ciuchami dla dzieci, gdzie czekalysmy 10 minut az pani sprawdzi jej cene misia (byl za drogi, nie kupila), i do kilku innych sklepow. W zadnym sklepie nie porozmawialysmy nawet, bo ona ogladala ciuchy, zupelnie jakby mnie tam nie bylo.
W koncu mowi: Jedziemy, bo maly musi isc spac.
Ok. No to jedziemy. Pojechalismy. Na koniec nie powiedziala ani dziekuje, ani wypchaj sie, nic.
Ona juz planuje wycieczke do Zoo. Ja juz planuje, jak najzgrabniej sie wykrecic od nastepnego spotkania z nia. Jakies pomysly?
I tylko tak sie zastanawiam: czy to ja przesadzam? Gdzie lezy granica pomiedzy dobrym wychowaniem a chamstwem, pomiedzy skorzystaniem z przyslugi, a wykorzystaniem kogos?
Some time ago I met a girl in a restaurant. We exchanged phone numbers and we decided to meet one day.
This day was today. She called and suggested shopping. Ok, i can go shopping, why not?
She doesn’t have a car, I do. So of course it is logical that I will pick her up, so that she doesn’t have to take taxi (although taxis are extremely cheap here).
I go to pick her up. I have to wait 10 minutes in front of her house before she gets ready. Finally she comes out.
We go all the way back, to the shopping mall. In the mall we go for a cup of coffee.
Unfortunately, there is no time to talk, as she follows her child around (which can be seen from where we sit, and he doesn’t need holding hands), or she takes photos of him.
She chooses first shop we go to. Half an hour she’s chosing a birthday postcard for her grandmother, a toy for her child and wrapping paper. And I’m standing there, waiting. Half an hour!
Than she says: come here, I’ll buy a roll for the kid. And she goes to the supermarket. And she buys stuff for dinner: veggies, fruit, meat… And I just follow her like her personal maiden.
Then she went to the baby shop, where we were waiting 10 minutes before the shop assistant tells her the price of a teddy bear (she didn’t buy it, it was too expensive), and to some other shops. In none of the shops we talked, as she was looking around as if I wasn’t even there.
Finally she says: Let’s go, the child needs to sleep.
Ok. Let’s go. We went. She didn’t even say thank you, or f*** you, nothing.
She is already planning a trip to the Zoo. I’m already planning how to avoid meeting her ever. Any ideas?
And I’m just thinking: am I exaggurating? Where good manners end and rudeness begins? What is a favour, and what is taking advantage of someone?
Olzusy u Fajwoklokow 